Living in Two Worlds

People who are still living as an Orthodox Jew to the outside but on the inside have left Orthodox Judaism, have to deal with living in two worlds: the orthodox home / society / family on the one hand, and the personal beliefs and private actions…

Reasons Why People Go OTD

There is a widespread misconception (based on Sanhedrin 63) that the only reason why people leave observance is to indulge in their desires. In general, we can say that there are plenty emotional and rational reasons why people…
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Seder Questions

By C. It's that time of the year again. It's nearly midnight, the table is laden with silver, the family is gathered around expectantly, and everyone is hungry. My father, resplendent in his kittel and shtreimel, claps his hands…
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Celebrating Freedom

In just the past couple years, I’ve had so many moments where I would let off a sigh of relief and realize how great it feels to be free. I was helping put on a Pesach Seder at a Conservative temple when the first night fell out on a Friday…
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My Own Derech

Living in the heart of a major frum community, I thought there was no one like me. I either had to decide to remain in the community and keep going to shul even though I didn't believe in Hashem, or I had to go off the derech and completely…
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Connection

For me, well, I didn't even know that being “off the derech” was a thing. Of course, in the back of my mind, I knew people left orthodoxy, but I didn't know that people talked about it, not in the way I needed to talk about it. I thought…
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Not Alone

Being the token orthodox Jew in a small rural town was lonely enough. We had moved here because it was cheaper and closer to my husband's job. I made a place for myself as a sunday school teacher and organized rosh chodesh events for the women…
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Skepticism

I think skepticism is part of my nature. I have always been one to question and probe, but until my last year in high school, I hadn't thought to question my belief in god or the practice of my religion. During that year we had a weekly “mishmar”…
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Apikorsus

For at least a decade, I felt like I had a problem that had to be fixed. I desperately wanted to find some rav, some teaching, or even some segula that would cure me of my apikorsus. I spoke to countless rabbanim and frum scholars, and I would…
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Questions

I thought I was the only one. You know, the only baal teshuva to go off the derech. Surely, no other BT had gone off the derech before me and my little family. Except that I wasn't yet thinking about it in those terms. I was thinking that we…