Entries by Chatzkaleh Kofer

The Health Effects of Leaving Religion

“a person’s faith, or lack thereof, is often so important that it affects physical, as well as spiritual, well-being.” The Health Effects of Leaving Religion How a loss of faith can manifest itself in the mind and body Ray has been a psychologist for more than 30 years and founded Recovering From Religion, an organization […]

How I Left My Hasidic Jewish Community & Found My Sexuality

By Etty Ausch, starring in the Netflix Documentary One Of Us: How I Left My Hasidic Jewish Community & Found My Sexuality Before my engagement, I never heard of the word “sex.” Just before I was married off, I attended bridal classes where I learned the basic mechanics of sex. I felt confused and terrified, […]

Second Generation Israeli OTDs

THIS NORMAL LIFE: ‘Datlash’ 2.0 – the elephant in the room What’s fueling the growing phenomenon in Israel of datlashim – the Hebrew acronym for formerly religious Jews? And how big is it in real numbers? Based on surveys conducted by the Central Bureau of Statistics, the Chotam religious lobbying organization found that, among the […]

Sh*t People Say to OTD People

Excellent article from imamother.com: Top Ten Things Not to Say to a Kofer | Imamother People going through religious struggles or an off-the-derech journey are often confronted by well-meaning individuals who make useless and even offensive comments. I did a little survey of my OTD friends and here are the worst offenders, in no particular […]

OTD FYI: Where OTD Meets the Curious

From the moderators of the Off the Derech Facebook group, a new social media outlet with the following description: Why do people go off the derech? How can we bring frum and frei together? Well, just join the conversation and have a virtual coffee in our OTD FYI group. And, FYI, the group is called OTD FYI.

First Dutch OTD Memoir Published

From the cover: “Dina-Perla grew up in Jewish orthodoxy and a suffocating reality, where nothing is what it seems. As a young girl, she fough for freedom and love, flees her parental home and decides never to return.” Dina-Perla de Winter’s debut is called “Exodus from the lighthouse” and will be sold in Dutch stores […]

We Are Not Lost

by Aryeh Levine I’m tired of seeing rabbis bemoaning the existence of OTD kids as “the loss of so many children.” I just want to grab them by the shoulders, look them in the eye, and say: We are not lost. We are still here. We lost you. Before we ever had you, we lost […]