Footsteps on Oprah Magazine
/0 Comments/in Blog, News, Stories on the Web /by Chatzkaleh KoferThis Organization Helps People Who’ve Left the Orthodox Jewish Community
Imagine you’d never seen The Wizard of Oz. Or gotten sunburned at the beach. Or twisted apart an Oreo and made tooth tracks in the filling. Or pawed at your tenth-grade boyfriend in the back of a Honda Civic.
Why I went Off-the-Derech
/4 Comments/in Blog, News, Personal Stories /by Chatzkaleh Koferby NS

My journey from an extremely religious ben Torah to an atheist was long and painful. Over a few years, I transformed from being someone who loved nothing more than connecting with the Torah to facing the realization that I had devoted my life to a lie.
My questions started innocently enough, subtle incoherencies in the Rambam and the Ramchal, but the deeper I dove looking for answers, the more questions seemed to surround me. Problems with Chazal, historical inconsistencies in Tanach, the impossibility of the Mabul, for two years I became cripplingly obsessed with trying to resolve the questions that haunted me.
Read moreAn Interview with Formerly Frum Izzy Posen
/0 Comments/in Blog, Stories on the Web /by Chatzkaleh Kofer‘Why I had to leave my ultra-Orthodox life’
Izzy Posen describes what life is like inside one of the UK’s most secluded religious communities.
This is How Difficult Leaving is
/0 Comments/in Blog, Stories on the Web /by Chatzkaleh KoferRebecca Wyss, reporter SonntagsBlick
Published on: 01.04.2019, 10:00
Anyone who wants to leave the ultra-Orthodox Jewish community in Zurich has a difficult road ahead of them. A small group of formerly religious talk about their departure – and are now helping others.
Sam Friedman (36) was a prayer leader (chazan) in the ultraorthodox Jewish community in Zurich.
Sam Friedman, 36, has left the Jewish Orthodox community. He belongs to a small group of alumni who founded the platform to help others.
Melissa’s Story
/0 Comments/in Blog, News, Personal Stories /by Chatzkaleh KoferMelissa is 37 years old and lives in Ottawa, Ontario with two cats 🙂
Hi Melissa, thanks for agreeing to do an interview. What can you tell us about your religious background?

Hi, thanks for having me! I grew up as an evangelical Christian, and was with the Baptist Church from birth until I was about 18 or so. Around the time I moved out on my own for the first time I started to question what I was raised to believe, and realized that Christianity wasn’t for me. I did some reading and researching, and I remembered taking a religion course in high school that really interested me, specifically the unit we did on Judaism. I didn’t know at the time that my parents were on their own journey, and eventually the three of us ended up deciding to convert to Judaism together.
Rachel’s Story
/1 Comment/in Blog, News, Personal Stories /by Chatzkaleh KoferRachel (pseudonym) is in her forties, and is an attorney-in-law. She lives on the east coast with her two sons.
Hi Rachel, thanks for agreeing to be interviewed. Please tell us something about your family’s religious background and why you know Russian 🙂
We came here when I was relatively young from the former Soviet Union. My parents were not religious but they soon became enamored with the local Chabad, which tried to involve them in every way possible. Several years after we arrived, our home was kosher, and I was attending a Chabad elementary school, and lighting shabbos candles. After high school, I moved to Crown Heights for seminary and employment, as well as college. Although college was frowned upon, I received a bracha from the rebbe at the time to go to college, which allowed me to remain accepted – relatively- in the Chabad community while also enhancing my secular education. Looking back now I see how these unique circumstances shaped my life and freedoms.
Letter to Our Family and Friends
/0 Comments/in Blog, Personal Stories /by Chatzkaleh Koferby Philo and Judy Judaeus
letter-to-our-family-and-friends-anonymizedHow Miriam Fled the Sect
/0 Comments/in Blog /by Chatzkaleh KoferVictim born into ultra-orthodox Jewish community tells how she fled
Miriam Kliers, 46, was effectively brainwashed by ultra-orthodox Hasidic rabbis She was forced to run away from her husband, Shlomo, after he refused divorce Miriam had an arranged marriage with the unemployed student from Israel She was the chief bread-winner but when she ran away she lost everything From the outside at least, it’s an ordinary Victorian family home, part of an unassuming network of residential streets in a North London suburb.
Miriam’s Story and Fraud in the Stamford Hill Community
/0 Comments/in Blog, Personal Stories /by Chatzkaleh KoferBBC Radio 4 – File on 4, The Unorthodox Life of Miriam
The shocking story of one woman’s attempt to escape an Orthodox Jewish community.
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